I have had these thoughts running through my head for a few days now and after a very vivid dream with my mother last night, I decided that it must be time for me to write it down. I was debating on blogging because just the title mother and knowing that I am a single mom of four, makes me think no one is going to want to log in to read, imagining that this will be one more of those blogs where a mother is complaining about motherhood or bragging about her children. I dread when those cross my path so let me begin by saying that is not my intention with this post. I honestly don’t know how this will turn out by the end, but my blog serves to be the “words from heart, mind, and soul” so here are my thoughts.
I have been witnessing a lot of judgement surrounding mothers lately and I have been doing my best to not only stay clear of it but to not stand in judgement. Practicing “Let those without sin cast the first stone.” That is not to say that I am in support of some of the actions I have seen or heard rumored but as I wondered if some of the stories were true, I had to remind myself that I have had more then my fair share of “Bad Mommy” days.
We all know that being a mother is said to be the hardest, most thankless, yet most rewarding job. Maybe that is true but I know that I do NOT feel that way when I am having a hard day. I have wanted to send my children off or take my own self on an adult only vacation. In these moments I know that we are not always the best parents to our children and feel that all to familiar “mother guilt” about our behavior later.
I guess what I am saying is that we all make mistakes, but once we realize them we need to seek forgiveness and challenge ourselves to do better. For those that are on a path of redemption need not be judged but supported. Their actions are not to be condoned, nor should we enable their behavior, hold them accountable by human morality and standards, but be prepared to cut off communication and association if they don’t find fault with in themselves.
It is our first job to protect our children and raise them to be productive members of society. We do this by being the best ‘you’ that you can be, knowing that your being mirrored. Let your life, your words inspire others to want to be like you. Never quit striving to be better, just remember it is okay to falter, as long as you seek amends and do better next time. Mother, Father, it doesn’t matter……. we are all only human.
